I’m a quiet person when put into a large group of people. Some people take this as me not being interested, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m an observer, I like listening to what people are saying, even if what they’re saying is disagreeable. The only time that I can talk is one-on-one, with somebody who isn’t superficial or judgemental. If I have nothing useful to contribute to a conversation, then I won’t say anything. I don’t like TV soaps, so can’t (and don’t want to) take part in mindless conversations about who is sleeping with who, and why doesn’t X move out as oooooh she’s too good for Y.
If I’m out in a big group and not interacting with anybody - then I’ll leave, usually without saying anything to anybody. I don’t like saying goodbye - I’d rather just disappear. I liken it to becoming invisible.
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I’m a complete extrovert but I can see how not talking if you have nothing to say makes sense, in fact perhaps more people should try it (definitely putting that on my rainy day list but I doubt I’d be good at it). And I don’t relate to it but your preference for not saying much if there’s an audience is understandable, I’ve never found it odd although I imagine others could. Have you been quiet all your life?
I have to say this - the vanishing thing, its spooky for the people left behind to suddenly realise you’re … lost? I’m used to it now but I still think its polite to at least mutter to someone that you’re going
Yes, I’ve always been quiet. My first school report that I can remember was along the lines of “Simon will do better once he comes out of his shell”. I don’t think I’ve ventured far in 23 years, from the report.
Perhaps you will do better when you do?
Maybe. This year may well be my last chance to change myself, before I get too pissed off with what a pathetic person I am.